3 Secrets for a Deeper Level of Trust in Your Relationship - Teliah NaShonia

3 Secrets for a Deeper Level of Trust in Your Relationship

Trust is a super vital piece of a solid relationship, however, it’s something that numerous individuals battle with, for a variety of reasons.

What is the definition of Trust?

Trusting in somebody implies that you think they are solid, you believe in them and you feel safe with them physically and inwardly. Trust is something that two individuals in a relationship can construct together when they choose to believe each other. You can’t request or demonstrate trust; believing somebody is a decision that you make.

Primarily based on any relationships you build with others, each of these relationships will mostly like experience trust at a different tier.

Trust has three unique tiers. The first tier of trust is deterrence-based trust. Deterrence-based trust is based on the circumstance that individuals will do whatever they are told because they fear the consequence of not doing. In other words, there are rules in place that prevent you from taking advantage of or harming another person. In our relationships with Jesus, we have the BIBLE that governs our behavior in all relationships that we encounter.


As Christians were instructed to love the LORD our God and keep his requirements, his decrees, his laws and his commands always (Deuteronomy 11:1). When we engage in relationships with others, God’s plan is for us to trust completely in Him for all of our needs despite if our relationships with others do not completely satisfy our needs. When we engage in relationships with others we have an indirect agreement that ensures we can trust each other to hold up a commitment. Also, we create boundaries on what we believe to be acceptable or unacceptable, if our trust is broken usually there are consequences involved.

The second tier of trust is knowledge-based trust. Knowledge-based trust is based on all the experiences we have encountered with other individuals that allow us to predict the behavior of others and decide if someone is worth investing trust in. For example, if you dated a serial cheater in the past who use to engage in sexual talk with someone else online. Then, entered a relationship in which your new partner spends a considerable amount of time online naturally you would question if there worth trusting in.

Jesus desires us to continually acknowledge Him and stay in close fellowship with Him. Many of us put our trust in negative thinking and Satan lies in God. However, we have been warned to be alert and of sober mind. Our enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour (1 Peter 5:8). Instead, of trying to make predictions on who is worth trusting in your relationships. Ask Jesus to give you spiritual understanding and wisdom, to discern the things of God, and remove anyone from your life that does not belong. Your desire should be to the know the truth, Jesus has promised instead of clinging onto negative thoughts, self-sabotaging behaviors based on the past or Satan lies.

The last and final tier of trust is identity-based trust. Identity-based trust refers to the intimacy that you have built with those you feel completely safe to be vulnerable with by sharing all of your dreams, hopes, fears, worries and true self with. To be vulnerable may mean to be honest about sin, or brokenness, or weakness, or just the general mess of your life with the ones you trust. God loves you. And Jesus Christ will never leave you nor forsake you. No matter how weak or vulnerable we may be with those you choose to build relationships with, we can look to Christ, whose grace is sufficient for us and made perfect in our weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9).

Take a moment to examine the level of trust in your most important relationships.

What level of Trust are you at with each relationship? How can you develop deeper levels of trust within them?

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